If you're tired of unreliable, immature guys,
dating older men can seem like the ideal
solution. Older men are often more capable,
more confident and more considerate than dates
your own age - and they know how to treat a
But dating older men can have pitfalls as well
as pluses, so before you go searching for a
more mature man, make sure that you're
Avoiding the Mid Life
If you're interested in dating older men, it's
time to change where you look.
Avoid hooking up with any middle-aged men you
meet in your usual nightclubs. Men who surround
themselves with young, drunken women are
looking for nothing more than arm candy. They
are either suffering from a mid life crisis or
coming through a divorce, and you are their
attempt to prove that they're still attractive.
If needy, insecure young men annoy you,
remember that needy, insecure older guys are
Think about the sort of places older men meet
up. Start drinking in more sophisticated bars.
Take up grown up hobbies. A few dating websites
now specialize in introducing younger women to
older guys, so consider giving one a try.
Other People's Opinions
Bear in mind that if you and your new man have
a noticeable age difference, people are going
His family may assume you're after his money,
so prove to them that you're an independent,
self-sufficient young woman. No matter how you
really feel about your job, discuss it
enthusiastically. If you have your own
apartment, make a point of talking about plans
Your own family may worry that your man is
taking advantage of you. Sit them down and
explain to them that you realize there's an age
difference, but you really like this guy.
Assure them that they'll be the first people
you turn to if anything does go wrong.
You may also find that friends, colleagues and
even strangers judge you. Prove them all wrong
by making your relationship work.
When you date guys your own age, you are likely
to bond over your shared interests, tastes and
childhood memories. Dating older men changes
the rules. Instead of looking for things you
have in common, share your different
experiences. Introduce him to your favorite
hobbies and movies, and show a genuine interest
when he tells you all about his.
Remember that what's important is not shared
interests, but shared outlooks. If you like
quiet, relaxing weekends, look for a man who
feels the same. If you love sports and
adventures, you'll need somebody energetic.
Accept that all couples, regardless of age,
need some separate interests and time apart. If
he doesn't share your love of cocktails, go out
with your girlfriends instead.
The Older Man for You
Older guys come with all sorts of benefits.
Instead of a penniless kid who takes you for
pizza then carves a new notch in his bedpost,
you'll be dating a grown up. Your man is more
likely to have a steady income and his own
home. He's more likely to take you on
sophisticated dates and make involving
conversation. And, at the end of the evening,
he's more likely to know the moves which really
do put a smile on your face.
Don't let other people's opinions put you off.
Only you know who and what can make you happy.
If a mature man is the one for you, get out
there and grab him.