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By Rick
Freedom
It seems so simple. You see a girl who catches
your eye, so you ask her out. But truthfully,
pursuing the woman of your dreams is easier
said than done. What you should say or do is
often overshadowed by the fear of rejection,
leaving most men frozen in their
tracks.
But the good news is that it doesn’t have to be
this difficult, as long as you do what comes
naturally to you. So many men seek the advice
of others when it comes to asking Ms. Right out
on a date. The problem with this is that the
preferences of outsiders tend to clash with the
personal style of the individual, making for
minimal success. As with anything in life, you
can’t go wrong with being true to
yourself.
And while the manner in which you ask a woman
out is irrelevant, there are certain conditions
to take into consideration before doing so.
Read on to learn about five ways to get her to
go out with you. You may recognize a lack of
one or more of these practices in your own
dating life, but it’s never too late to improve
your game. So, how do you ask her out?
One Thing at a
Time
Consider the following
scenario: you’re at a house party, when you see
a beautiful woman at the other end of the room.
With a nice dose of “liquid confidence,” you
approach her and start up a conversation. She
seems nice enough, and no sooner than you
learned her first name do you ask her out.
Suddenly, she has to go “check on her
friend.”
What went wrong here? Many guys make the
mistake of treating women like lollipops in a
candy store. “I’ll take that one!” They see a
room filled with blondes, brunettes, and
everything in between, and they think they can
have their pick of whomever. In truth, women
prefer to get better acquainted with a guy
before moving onto any talk of a date. A better
way to handle the above situation would be to
use the night as an opportunity to get to know
her. If (after some lengthy conversation) she
or you are about to leave, then ask her if
she’d like to go out sometime. Never forget
that women take longer to warm up than men
do.
Get Her to Open Up
If you follow the above step by chatting with a
woman, you should be able to tell if she’s
enjoying the conversation. Her body language,
eye contact, and general response to you will
speak volumes. If, on the other hand, she seems
disinterested, you can either jump ship and
move onto someone else, or continue engaging
her.
If you choose the latter, try learning more
about her. Ask her what her occupation is, who
she knows at the party you two are at, what she
does for fun, etc. While it’s good to show
interest in her, be careful to not lay it on
too thick. With every response she gives, make
sure to include some information about yourself
to keep the conversation flowing. If, after a
while, she seems to open up to you, then
casually tell her you enjoyed talking with her
and would like to see her again sometime. If
she’s still stone cold, move on. Do not ask her
out.
Flatter Her…Moderately
It’s no secret that women like to be admired.
They put great care into their appearances, and
their reputations are no less important.
Therefore, it’s important that you take the
time to notice her assets, but not in excess.
For example, take into consideration our house
party scene. You’ve approached that beautiful
woman at the other end of the room, and seem to
have established a certain rapport with one
another. After a good ten minutes or so of
conversation, compliment her knowledge on
whatever subject you two are discussing. Once
some more time passes, casually tell her how
beautiful her eyes are, but go no further.
Women (believe it or not) get hit on
practically every day of their lives, so
anything in excess from you will seem like the
same old game to her.
Learn Body Language
It’s true…actions really do speak louder than
words. Body language is the non-verbal cues
resulting from subconscious reactions to our
environments. Most people are unaware of the
body language they reveal to others, and
because of this, it’s a great indicator of how
another person is feeling.
If, when talking to a girl, she folds her arms
across her chest and stares everywhere but into
your eyes, odds are you’re losing her. On the
other hand, if her gaze remains on you, her
smile beams brightly, and her body leans
forward into your space, you’re doing well.
Generally speaking, it’s not difficult reading
a person’s body language; just be mindful to
pay attention to it if you want good results
when you ask her out.
Be Irresistible
If you
follow the steps above, odds are you’ll be well
on your way to winning a date. Through
conversation, you should learn things about
your mystery woman, such as her dating status,
passions, and personality. If you like what
you’ve learned, then go ahead and ask her
out.
The key to being irresistible to a woman is to
remain confident and relaxed when in her
presence. Remember that women are attracted to
a challenge, so a surefire method of turning
her off is to appear overly eager. Lay on the
charm at your leisure, and when you are finally
ready to ask her out, don’t come off as nervous
or needy. Take on the mindset that you would
like to go out with her, but you certainly
don’t need to, and odds are, you’ll land
yourself a date.
While there is no guarantee on dating success,
these five steps to get her to go out with you
are certain to get you the results you seek. If
at first you don’t succeed with them, try
again. If you do not ask her out, you have no
chance. But if you make an attempt, you stand a
chance. Remember that love is a game, and you
have to play in order to stand a chance at
winning. With these guidelines as your tools,
you’ll be well on your way to doing so.
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