By Rick Freedom

If you get tongue tied around attractive women you are not alone. Making small talk with someone you are interested in can be an intimidating experience, and this is doubly true for first dates.

Whether you are scared of awkward silences or tend to make tactless remarks, there are tricks you can learn which will teach you to talk to women. From the importance of posture to interesting dating conversation topics, follow the tips below and you will soon find you're flirting with ease.

Non-Verbal Communication

No matter how nervous you may be feeling, it's important that you learn how to hide it.

Fake relaxation when you talk to women by making and maintaining eye contact and resisting the urge to fidget. If you're standing, create a less defensive pose by keeping your feet slightly apart and your shoulders loose; if you're seated, turn your body towards your date and rest your hands in full view.

Don't let your focus drift to the beautiful women or the big screen TV in the background, and never underestimate the importance of a genuine smile.

Be Positive

Flirting and first dates are supposed to be fun so don't spoil the mood by complaining. If you don't like your job, don't talk about it. If your friends are unreliable, forget about them. If your food is served cold, get it dealt with then immediately change the subject. Take this opportunity to present yourself in a positive light by keeping the topics upbeat.

Treat her Right

Show a genuine interest in your date by listening to what she's saying. No matter how funny or informative your own stories resist the urge to interrupt her when she's speaking.

Never criticize your date's tastes or opinions, but don't be afraid to disagree with her. If you discover that you don't share her personal beliefs state that you respect her point of view, but you don't share it. If she wants to discuss your differences, do so calmly and without any attempts to change her mind.

Keep it Light

No matter how serious a relationship you may be seeking, keep the subject matter casual. At this stage, your money worries should not affect her and your urge to settle down is irrelevant.

Good dating conversation topics include hobbies, favorite vacations and hopes and aspirations. Show an interest in her life by asking lots of questions. If you're unfamiliar with one of her interests, ask her to explain it. If she loves her job or has travelled the world, get her to tell you all about it.

Quick Fix Dating Conversation Starters

There are certain topics which anyone can talk about. If you seem to be sinking into silence, revive the conversation by asking her what she would do if she won the lottery, what her first job was or where her ideal vacation would be.

Encourage her to psychoanalyze celebrities. Most women love dissecting the crazy behavior and the whirlwind romances of the stars, so ask her for her opinions.

Alternatively, point out some of the strange characters dining around you and help her to invent background stories about them.

Remember that your date is probably feeling just as nervous as you are. Both of you are eager to make a good impression and worried about stilted silences. If at first your dating conversation seems awkward and clunky, don't worry. Keep your posture relaxed and your expression welcoming, and before you know it you'll hit upon a point of common interest and your words will be flowing with ease.

Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and entrepreneur whose interests include communication, human relationships, love, dating and philosophy. If you liked what you read, check out http://www.i1datingadvice.com/Dating-Books.html. For more dating advice, visit http://www.i1datingadvice.com