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By Rick
Freedom
Anyone who’s gone on a date knows how
nerve-wracking it can be. Concerns over how you
look or what you’re going to say often consume
your mind before, during, and after the night
is over. And even if you’ve managed to end the
night on an apparently high note, there’s no
guarantee of a second date.
If you’ve found yourself falling short on
dating success, don’t feel bad, because in this
article, you’re going to learn how to maximize
your chances with the opposite sex. The
technique you’re going to learn about is easier
than you’ve ever imagined, and the best part is
that it involves practically no practice
whatsoever! Anyone can do this, and those who
have already discovered the technique’s
benefits are reaping in them.
The Secret to Attraction
What is this secret approach to attracting the
opposite sex? Confidence! At this point, you’re
probably thinking it would be a waste of your
time to continue reading, and if so, you
couldn’t be more mistaken. The fact of the
matter is this - confidence is sexy. Have you
ever seen an older, bald, and slightly-pudgy
man walking around with a gorgeous woman by his
side? Certainly, she didn’t go after him for
his looks, but he must have appealed to her in
some way. Odds are that he conveyed a very high
and confident status.
So how does one effectively behave confidently?
First, you have to stop preplanning what you’re
going to say or how you’re going to act. If
(before a date) you refresh your mental
inventory of stories to tell in order to gain
her approval, it’s going to show. You’ll appear
desperate, not confident, and one surefire way
to turnoff a woman is to act like you need her
approval.
What is True Confidence?
Confidence is an attitude, not an act. It’s a
positive state-of-mind that is revealed not
through funny stories or jokes, but through
body language. Know that you’re a good catch,
and relax in the realization of that. This type
of confidence will set you apart from the vast
majority of men on the market, because it
enables builds confidence from within. Most men
practice superficial confidence that needs to
be forced when interacting with a woman.
While you should portray confidence, don’t be
so relaxed that you neglect conversation with
your date. If you think of something funny to
say, say it. Do what comes naturally to you, as
opposed to the lines that you rehearsed on the
drive over. Maintain control of your
interactions with the opposite sex through your
conversation. For example, if you compliment
her only to get, “I bet you say that to all the
girls” in response, don’t feed into it. Someone
seeking approval would quickly deny her
accusation with a “No I don’t!” Refrain from
doing the same.
If you’re truly confident, then you will be
indifferent to her statement. There will be no
“correct” response. Any time you search for the
exact words to say, you’re giving her control
of the situation, because you’re indicating
that you care about her opinion. Instead,
casually smile in reference to her claim, and
move on from the topic. Not only does this put
you in control, but it creates a sense of
mystery surrounding you. You’ve become a
challenge to her, and women love
challenges.
Play Hard-to-Get
Another aspect to confidence is to know when to
walk away. You may have heard it said that “you
always want what you can’t have,” and this
certainly holds true for women. Be willing to
leave the interaction if you’re just not
feeling it. After all, you’re a strong and
confident man; you know what you want, and
you’re not going to waste your time on anything
less.
Walking away also makes you appear as a
challenge, which only keeps the woman even more
interested. If it’s you that’s unreachable to
her, that will make you appear more
interesting. Make her work to gain your
attraction. Don’t pick up the phone every time
she calls, and take your time getting back to
her. If she wants to go out, but you have other
plans, don’t break them to be with her. Have
other things in your life that are important to
you, and she’ll try even harder to be at the
top of that list.
So be confident, and don’t be too eager to
please. Always remember that you’re a catch,
and there’s a whole world of women out there
for you to choose from. You only deserve the
best.
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