We all know the importance of making a good
first impression. This is why, when we approach
an attractive woman, we want the first words to
come out of mouths to be witty, imaginative and
When simply saying “hello” won't do, pick-up
lines can seem like the perfect solution - but
with so many lines to choose from, how do you
know which one to use?
What Not to Say
Women have a tendency to criticize pick-up
lines. They describe them as demeaning,
impersonal or unimaginative - and a lot of the
time they're right. If you want to grab a
girl's attention you need to know what to
Even if all you're after is a one night stand,
don't say anything sexual. Compliments are
always more effective than crudeness so stick
to less smutty forms of flattery.
Steer clear of the corny jokes. If it's obvious
you found and prepared a line in advance you
will look like a player. Women don't want to
believe that you're on the prowl for the sex;
they want to believe that only they could have
caught your eye. Opt for a line which appears
to be spontaneous.
And finally, bear in mind that most women have
at some point been asked if heaven is missing
an angel or told their dress would look good on
the floor. The clichés just don't work anymore
- it's time for a fresher approach.
Traditional lines have lost their impact. Women
are no longer surprised or impressed by them,
so shake things up by getting straight to the
point. You know she knows what you're trying to
do, so turn it into the joke.
These lines work wonderfully:
“Excuse me - could you spare a moment to be hit
“This is my friend Mike; could you spend a few
moments getting to know him so that he can
“I'd like to chat you up but I'm scared you're
going to slap me.”
Making a Cliché Work
Every so often you'll come across a one liner
so funny you just have to share it. Go ahead.
Ask her if she wants a hot dog to go with her
buns. But follow it up with a huge smile, an
embarrassed laugh and the statement, “I'm sorry
- that was awful. I just wanted an excuse to
talk to you.” She will be so flattered she will
forgive you the terrible joke.
An Easy Conversation
The trouble with many pick-up lines is that
once they have been said you don't know how to
follow them. This is your chance to get to know
that woman, but you cannot think of anything
interesting or amusing to say.
Next time you're lost for words, frown
thoughtfully then ask, “Don't I know you from
somewhere?” She may say no, but if you insist
that you recognise her you will soon find
yourself deep in conversation about your
favorite bars, your work and wherever else you
each spend your time.
Charm is Everything
While a great line can give you the confidence
to approach somebody, what you choose to say is
not what's most important. Even the worst joke
can be rescued if you deliver it with
Opting for a relaxed, flattering or imaginative
approach will certainly make things easier for
you, but whatever you do decide to say, say
your line with a smile.
Rick Freedom is an aspiring author and
entrepreneur whose interests include
communication, human relationships, love,
dating and philosophy. If you liked what you
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