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By Rick
Freedom
While most men appreciate a great meal, the
fact is that the way to a man’s heart is much
more involved.
Remember the first time you and your man went
out? The chemistry was certainly there, and you
didn’t even have to wait long for him to call
and ask for a second date. You were on top of
the world, convinced you had found Mr. Right.
After all, what wasn’t there to like about him?
He was attentive, passionate, and he couldn’t
wait to be with you!
But if you’re like most
women, you’ve probably noticed a strong
decrease in your man’s attention recently. It
seems the more mature your relationship gets,
the weaker it feels. To remedy this, you (like
every other woman on the planet) put great care
into your physical appearance. You’ve worked
extra hard at pleasing him, whether it be
emotionally or via the tried-and-true
method…through his stomach. Still, nothing
seems to work, and you’re at a loss.
If this sounds familiar,
don’t fret, because you’re not alone. For
members of the same species, men and women
couldn’t be more different. Read on to learn
the secret to securing a man’s heart, and
saving your relationship.
Send Him
Hunting
Think back to the very start of your
relationship. Remember how attentive he was? He
wasted no time asking you out, and he didn’t
even bother to abide by the two-day rule when
calling for a second date. All of that
attention was so wonderful!
So what happened? The truth
of the matter is that while society has evolved
greatly since prehistoric times, men haven’t.
They’re still tuned into their natural caveman
instincts to hunt, also know as the thrill of
the chase. Once they’ve made their capture, the
novelty is gone, and it’s time to hunt
something else.
Women, in contrast, are the
more emotional of the two sexes. We know the
importance of feeling needed and loved, and as
such, we don’t think twice about showering our
men with such affections. Perhaps you’ve done
so under the impression that this would make
him realize how lucky he is to have you in his
life. In contrast, you’ve probably done the
exact opposite.
Right now, your man is
certain that he has you, and you will not
stray. Because of your utter devotion to him,
he knows he has caught you, and you are going
nowhere. And while this may be true, there’s no
harm in making him wonder otherwise. Little
things like not picking up the phone when he
calls, or waiting a few hours to return his
message, will catch his attention. And if you
really want to trigger his inner caveman, make
other plans with your girlfriends. You should
never put your friends on the back burner
anyways.
Get a
Life
Sit down and think about all the passions
you had before meeting him. Now think about how
many of those passions you still pursue while
in your relationship. If the answer is none or
very few, you may want to consider revamping
your life a tad.
Take up that pottery class
you’ve been thinking of; write that book that’s
been gathering dust in your mind the past
couple of years; or sign up for that running
group you’ve been meaning to join. Just because
you’re in a relationship does not mean your
life has to come to a halt, and if you really
think about it, your man probably tends to his
hobbies. Why don’t you? Make him view you as a
busy girl whom he has to work hard to spend
time with. Having other passions will not only
make you appear more desirable in his eyes, but
it will work wonders for your self-esteem as
well.
Remain a
Mystery
If you’re like most women, you make it a
habit of letting your man in on every emotion
running inside you. And if he’s got half a
brain, he’s well aware that he’s the only man
for you, you will never leave him, and the
first thought you have upon waking is him. If
this sounds like you, then you need to stop
it…now.
The way to a man’s heart
requires becoming a mystery to him. You have to
go against the very inclinations you’re feeling
to obtain your desired results. For example, if
you’re seeking assurance of his commitment to
you, the last thing you want to do is ask him.
Doing so will only drive him further away.
Instead, you have to tap into his hunting
instincts (as mentioned above) by playing it
totally cool. Make him wonder where you stand
in regards to the relationship, and he will
work even harder at insuring you are his and
his alone.
If you think about it, men
and women are both attracted to people who are
confident and independent. Who wants someone
whose entire life rotates upon someone else?
Men want women who have other reasons to live
besides them, and if you fill your life with
additional passions (while still remaining a
worthwhile girlfriend), you’ll be sure to steal
his heart for good.
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