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By Rick
Freedom
Ask any woman what she looks for in a guy, and
you will get something to the tune of this: “He
has to be hard-working and sweet, with a good
sense of humor.” And while this sounds nice,
the truth is that even she cannot pinpoint what
she finds attractive in the opposite sex, which
begs to ask…what do women really want?
To begin answering this age-old question, we
first have to look at our history as a species.
During prehistoric times, the men were the
leaders. Everything that was needed for
survival depended on the males: food,
protection, and rules for living. Even in
today’s society of equal rights, women still
feel that instinctual need to be protected by
the men in their lives. In short, women want an
alpha male.
But what exactly is an alpha male? In the
animal kingdom, the alpha male is considered
the leader of the pack, and all the other
members act as his subordinates. This certainly
doesn’t mean that a woman wants to be demeaned
by her partner, as abusive behavior generally
makes for a very unhealthy relationship (not to
mention criminal charges.) But there are
certain alpha qualities that women find
irresistible which we will cover in this
article.
Alpha Males are Confident
You’ve heard it said that there is nothing
sexier than confidence, and this couldn’t be
truer. So many guys think they have to have
good looks or a nice set of wheels in order to
attract the opposite sex, when in reality, all
they really need is a healthy dose of self
esteem. Of course, this doesn’t mean personal
hygiene lacks importance, but it is the
non-verbal cues a man sends to a woman that
appeals most to her. An alpha male goes after
what he wants, stands up for himself, and does
not seek the approval of others. By remaining
secure in his own skin, he magnetically
attracts others to him.
Alpha Males are
Territorial
Alpha males are protective of anything or
anyone important to them. If someone is
invading their space, they have the confidence
to address the issue, and this is no less true
when it comes to their women. While most
females will tell you they don’t like feeling
“owned” by anyone, they do appreciate feeling
important to the men in their lives. A strong
and confident alpha male will see to it that
nothing holds claim to what is his.
Alpha Males are in Charge
It’s true - nice guys really do finish last.
This is not to say that an alpha male treats
others badly, but he does not go out of his way
to please either. This fact also applies to the
women in their lives. An alpha male takes the
lead when deciding where to go for dinner, and
gifts such as flowers and jewelry are
considered “rewards” for good behavior by their
women. By selectively choosing when to shower a
woman with his affection, the alpha male
displays his superior status…and she loves him
even more for it.
What Alpha Males
Aren’t
You’ve just learned the
three basic traits of an alpha male.
Incorporate these characteristics into your
behavior, and you will be well on your way to
becoming the man that every woman really wants.
However, as with anything, moderation is the
key. The following are tips for how to
effectively portray your alpha-male status
without going overboard.
Be Confident, Not Cocky
While it’s true that an alpha male displays
confidence, he is never arrogant about it.
Think about the most bigheaded person you’ve
ever met. What was your impression of them?
Bragging about your assets makes you appear
needy for the approval of others, whereas true
confidence is solid in and of itself. A genuine
alpha male does not need others to tell him he
is worthwhile; he knows that he is. In order to
appear superior, allow your accomplishments to
speak for themselves.
Be Territorial, Not
Possessive
We all know “that guy.” He’s the one who has to
know the name of every person his girlfriend
speaks to on the phone. If he catches her
talking to another guy, he loses his mind.
These are the behaviors of someone who feels
inferior in the eyes of his mate and everyone
else around him. In contrast, an alpha male is
self-assured enough to know that what is his
will remain so, and while he appreciates the
companionship of a woman, he certainly doesn’t
need it. He only responds to serious threats on
his territory, and he does so in a calm and
collected manner.
Be in Charge, Not a Jerk
There is a fine line between selectively
choosing when to be affectionate, and being
downright disrespectful of another person. The
men who verbally and physically assault their
women are not alpha males. In actuality, they
feel a deep-rooted sense of inferiority, and
are willing to beat anyone down in order to
lift themselves up. The key to being in charge
of your relationship is in moderation. Women
love a challenge, so any situation where they
have to earn your affection will keep them
interested, but nobody is going to settle for
being disrespected.
What do women really want? They want
confidence. They want to feel important and
protected by their man. They want a partner who
is in charge. In short, they want a man. All of
this may sound contradictory to what you’ve
been taught about relationships, but give it a
try and see for yourself. You might be
surprised.
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