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By Rick
Freedom
“The key to a man’s heart is through his
stomach.”
You’ve probably heard this statement uttered
before, and while it may be true, there’s so
much more that men seek from the women in their
lives. So many women place great emphasis on
appearances or sex when trying to keep their
mates interested. And while it stands to reason
that most men would prefer a woman who takes
care of herself and is sexually adventurous,
catching and keeping their attention is really
quite simple.
Do you ever wonder why men are so uncomfortable
watching women cry? In their eyes, they are
responsible for offering up a solution to her
problem, and because they can’t, this puts them
in a very uncomfortable position. Men are
problem solvers. They want to be seen as a hero
and protector by the females in their lives. In
return, all they ask for is a little
appreciation of this role.
Most women don’t realize how important it is
for their mates to receive compliments. They
see their husbands or boyfriends as being
strong in both body and mind, and therefore,
they fail to nurture that human need to feel
appreciated. Think about an average day in your
household. Does nagging and criticism reign
over praise and support?
In this article, we’re going to cover three
things that men really want from women. You can
begin incorporating these practices into your
everyday life, and enjoy the changes that take
place as a result. There is nothing fancy to
the following techniques, and the good news is
that most of us already perform them on a daily
basis! Included in each section is a ‘do’ and
‘do not’ to help you better utilize the
steps.
Do Love Him
Even if he doesn’t admit it, chances are your
man enjoys hearing that you love him. It’s
important to say this word to your mate, and do
so because you really mean it, not because
you’ve been prompted to say it. Even more
important is taking the time to illustrate love
through your actions. Women tend to place so
much emphasis on being shown appreciation, but
they often fail to hold up their end of the
deal in return. Everyone needs to feel
loved.
To love is a choice, and to behave in a loving
manner requires thought and effort. Nagging and
criticizing one’s mate is an act of impulse;
it’s a default emotion that lacks any
behavioral discipline. As a married or
committed couple, it is the responsibility of
both parties to put in equal work in order to
make it successful. And without love, the
possibility of success is
minimal.
Do Not Love Him
Unconditionally
You may be thinking that true love is
unconditional, and it is. Supporting one’s mate
and forgiving certain offenses is par for the
course of unconditional love. But there are
certain situations where it would be best to
retreat from the relationship. Any instance
where one party is verbally or physically
abusive to the other would be one example.
There’s a difference between supporting and
being demeaned, and you have to love yourself
enough to not allow any harm to come your
way.
Do Appreciate
Him
What typically comes out of your mouth the
second your husband comes home? Be honest. If
you’re like most women, any possibility of a
warm greeting is quickly replaced by
complaints. “You forgot to take out the
garbage,” or “You’re late again” might be some
of the things you say to the man you supposedly
love, and you need to
stop…now.
Think carefully about his response to such
treatment. Does he ignore you? If not, then he
probably voices his own frustrations in
response to yours, creating a vicious cycle of
negativity in your relationship. As humans,
it’s so easy to pick up on what’s going wrong
in our lives, while easily ignoring what’s
going right, and this is a habit you need to
break. Instead of nagging, try praising.
Consider the tiniest details of your life (such
as how he picks the kids up after work), and
thank him for them.
Do Not Be a
Doormat
There’s a big difference between forgetting to
take out the trash and never pulling your
weight around the house. If your man places all
domestic responsibilities on you, then you’re
the one being unappreciated, and it has to
stop. Not only is it unfair, but it sets a
foundation for your relationship of zero
respect, and it’s impossible to be happy for
the long haul under such conditions. As
important as it is to recognize effort by your
mate, it’s just as important to recognize when
he has zero motivation.
Do Respect
Him
For men, the ego is very important. So many
males work their fingers to the bone at their
jobs, and in the eyes of their bosses, it’s
never good enough. To add insult to injury,
many men come home at the end of the day to
even less respect, and still, they continue
striving for that well-deserved
recognition.
As the wife or partner of a hard-working and
good man, you should consider it your pleasure
and duty to support him in all things. Tell him
how handsome he looks, or remind him of how
capable he is. “Sounds like you handled that
client really well dear!” Never let an
opportunity pass when you could praise him, and
he will do the same for you.
Do Not Overdo
It
While it’s important to recognize his successes
and sympathize with his failures, be careful
not to lay it on too thick. If you do, then you
risk sincerity and credibility. Take care to
acknowledge genuine accomplishments versus
everyday behaviors, and draw the line between
them. As with anything, moderation is the key,
and laying on the flattery too thickly can be
just as bad as not laying it on at
all.
You’ve just learned the secret to what men
really want from women. Sounds simple enough,
right? Well, it really is; all it takes is some
minor personality tweaks and discipline.
Incorporate these practices into your everyday
life, and watch your relationship thrive and
grow.
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